Why Giving Into Fear Will Lead To Regret

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear. -Nelson Mandela

Fear is real.  It can debilitate and encompass you.

It can make decisions for you.  Decisions that can shape your life.  A lot of times fear can cause us to step back, think twice or discourage ourselves from something great.  Only to leave us feeling defeated and regretful.  Always wondering, should I have?  Or, what would have been if I did?

That is a daunting idea.  Living in regret.

Fear is stupid. So are regrets.   -Marilyn Monroe

Who would want to provide that life for themselves.  The life of regret.  But it happens all too often.

I have given into fear many times in my life.  Many times not actively knowing the outcome of the choice to give in to fear but did so, and am left thinking about those choices at times.  Fear is a great emotion, not so much in how it makes us feel, but in how it can shape us as individuals, if we surpass it.  When you make the choice to work through your fears, whatever it may be, it builds character, it makes you better, therefore having full and meaningful experiences.

Fear can enlighten you, if you let it.

Regret can eat you up and it comes into our lives for various reasons.  But the fact that you can minimize the thought of regret by living your life without fear is a beautiful idea. Make conscious choices to work through the things that scare you most.  Live in the moment and live fully.

Tell that person your true feelings…don’t be misread, they may need to hear it.

Start that business…a dream never sought after will always be desired.

Take those trips, if even, alone.  You may just have the time of your life.

Love hard

Work hard

Take chances

Make mistakes

Design your life and do so without letting fear lead you.  Doing so, isn’t really living.  Is it?

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself. -Franklin D. Roosevelt

There are people in every time and every land who want to stop history in its tracks. They fear the future, mistrust the present, and invoke the security of a comfortable past which, in fact, never existed.  -Robert Kennedy

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’  -Eleanor Roosevelt

The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.  -Mark Twain

Limits, like fear, is often an illusion.  -Michael Jordan

Courage is knowing what not to fear.  -Plato

What is a fear of living? It’s being preeminently afraid of dying. It is not doing what you came here to do, out of timidity and spinelessness. The antidote is to take full responsibility for yourself – for the time you take up and the space you occupy. If you don’t know what you’re here to do, then just do some good.  -Maya Angelou

Intimacy is not a happy medium. It is a way of being in which the tension between distance and closeness is dissolved and a new horizon appears. Intimacy is beyond fear.  -Henri Nouwen

Never let the fear of striking out get in your way.  -Babe Ruth

If you have stage fright, it never goes away. But then I wonder: is the key to that magical performance because of the fear?  -Stevie Nicks

People say to me all the time, ‘You have no fear.’ I tell them, ‘No, that’s not true. I’m scared all the time. You have to have fear in order to have courage. I’m a courageous person because I’m a scared person.’  -Ronda Rousey

There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.  ― John Lennon

Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.  ― Jim Morrison

She had blue skin,
And so did he.
He kept it hid
And so did she.
They searched for blue
Their whole life through,
Then passed right by-
And never knew.”  

-Shel Silverstein, Every Thing on It









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