Another Monday is here and I am feeling extremely motivated for the week ahead.
The weekend was pretty chill for us…playdates, laziness, minimizing all the clothing clutter we all seem to have built and lots of eating ha! Like pizza, street tacos and too much pasta….ughhh…
So, because of all of that food cheating I am looking to make up for that this week with a little rebalance of my diet and some workout dates with a friend.
I am super excited for some activity outside without the kiddos where I can just focus on me (because we all need that sometimes…right?)
On another note my little guy starting crawling! Yayy! So exciting and nerve racking all the same. Major child proofing is in order as my son is way more of an explorer than my daughter was at this stage. In a blink of an eye he’s across the room already…but this is where the fun starts! I couldn’t be happier! 😃
This will call for more fun to be had in the week ahead…so, let’s just get on with it then! 😄
I have returned after a bit of a cleanse from all things social media. It became apparent that I needed some time for reflection and a vacation from my news feed and in some ways even this blog.
Lately, this cleansing of sorts, seems to be more of a regular requirement in my life. Why? I’m really not sure. Maybe the amount of time that is sucked away to the consumption of useless information, or the obscene lists of notifications that flood my inbox, or the choice I make to scroll through the lives of other’s when I could be maximizing my own time. The struggle is real and it is entirely a pathetic one.
So, to feel less pathetic, I stepped away for a bit. Forty plus days or so, without any interaction on social media (although, I did have to answer a couple of questions on the Book from an inquirer that I did indulge but just once and maybe to check on a particular service I was looking into (reviews people) but that would be the jist of it! 🙂 )
All of Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram and Snapchat were avoided. All of those devoted apps were dissolved from my device and never to be installed again for a month and a half (and some never will be). If I didn’t remove them from my phone this would not work….I would look just out of habit!
At first, you go through a bit of withdrawal…not kidding. You feel as if every moment that involves nothing needs something and those are the moments we go to our devices. So, in those moments I had to learn to be okay with having nothing to do or better yet find ways to fill those quiet lulls with constructive activities.
I truly think people just can’t be in their own thoughts anymore. Boredom ensues fear nowadays.
What is so bad about being in our own heads…our own lives, essentially? This is what matters, our lives, our thoughts, our goods, our bads, our empty moments, our full ones….
Not the hand-picked reel that others lay out for us to see in their storylines. Social Media has become such a detached way of communicating for me lately. Nothing feels organic or sincere. I miss the days where learning about someone’s life was gained through conversation and one on one connection.
Or maybe, these are things I need to work on in myself. This disclosure is why I have an incessant need to break away from today’s ever popular ways of connecting and find comfort in the authentic happenings that arise everyday.
I love stepping back from the mindless scroll and actually get some shit done!
And that’s what I have attempted to do….get shit done, think outside of the box, enjoy the quiet moments and savor the time I share with my family. Without a phone attached to my hand.
It’s really nice. You should try it!
I actually felt less anxious…believe it or not. Today’s technology has definitely increased the anxiety people live with. It’s really in recent years that people complain about having to deal with the annoyance that is anxiety. In some cases, it can be crippling.
The reality is…everybody. is. anxious. Who could blame them!
We live on autopilot, constantly moving, taking in way too much information at a supersonic pace. We can’t just be in the moment anymore. We are just always waiting for the next thing.
Well, I don’t want to live like that any longer. What this whole experiment has taught me is that I want to be in the moment. Exhaust the beauty in the small things and all the details. I want to live slower and relish in my relationships with people.
I wish to be more creative and allow boredom to lead me on a path to better ideas. Being in my own thoughts is okay and one I feel compelled to engage in.
Just this past Monday I returned to Instagram…just a single post of a beautiful rose from a bouquet my husband gave me. Just to say I had returned.
Taking a moment to enjoy that flower means something to me. As it should.
I don’t feel I will be engaging as frequently as I found myself doing a couple of months ago.
And as for what apps I will be re-installing onto my phone…it won’t be all of them…that is for sure. Instagram (my main chick), Snapchat (my side chick) and Pinterest (my every now again girl 🙂 ) should suffice. These are my faves at this point and all I really need in this world of connecting.
All other sites will be an occasional visit from my PC when it suits me….or not…
Take care lovelies!
Have you had a recent detox from Social Media? If so, I would love to hear about it.
I woke up this morning with an intense pain in my arm as if I had been sleeping in the shape of a pretzel all night. Any direction I move this thing is painful…wtf. I got out of bed, started the coffee pot and took a peek out of the window. Woo hoo, snow is back in Chicago! Sarcastic emphasis on woo hoo.
Also, while I sit here writing about my affection of this particular morning, my son spits up all over my shirt and so adorably laughs afterwards. Eh…don’t you just love Monday’s?
The weekend was a chilly one and one I was feeling a bit under the weather for. Just didn’t feel myself. Maybe these winter blues are just hitting me as our weather has been a bit bipolar the last couple months.
With the current chill factor we kept it pretty calm the last couple of days. I attempted to finish all the laundry in this house which quickly just became another pipe dream…because who am I kiddin…every time I see my daughter she has a different pair of pants on or socks because the girl in her, has already decided that multiple outfit changes are needed throughout the day. And, the amount of drool coming out of my teething baby is on a whole new level leaving a change to be needed quite often…so laundry is forever an endless cycle.
The largest spider I have seen in a while decided to visit me in the bathroom as I was trying to take a shower. I have a sad, sad, fear of these creatures and this thing looked like it came right out of a horror movie! I mean this thing looked like it was pregnant and that it’s babies were pregnant it was so big…much larger than a half-dollar coin…I mean what has happened to the species of these creepy things…since I was a kid they have gotten larger and larger and I sware this thing was following me with its eyes.
Anyways, I definitely go into freeze mode when these creatures decide on a visit and the kicker is…my husband hates them too! So, this usually causes a battle of who is scared most to decide on the one that has to make this thing GET GONE! Well…I won!
Now, it can get pretty comical watching this grown man figure out the best way to rid our house of this thing without getting too close. What would probably take someone a second took my husband close to 20 minutes…ha…first, a nice wrestle head to head with the spider using a broom. Then, patiently waiting to see if he had met his maker only to be startled by the awakening of it. I think he may have come back with a vengeance for my husband as I can hear the amount of force that my husband was using that broom, this time around. Finally this thing was brought to its final demise but then we argued for some minutes on the reasoning of picking it up with a paper towel and flushing it down the toilet. My husband for some reason, thought this idea was crazy and that somehow the carcass would just disappear on its own…
I mean, if I were watching the two of us during this ordeal I would be completely entertained as this did not seem to be an easy feat but the vacuum helped to give this eight-legged freak a final resting place and I am happy to say it is no longer terrorizing my family and I…thank goodness!
On another note, near our home we have the yearly South Side Irish Parade and some of the neighbors always make a celebration of it…with the cold we decided against taking the kids but we were gifted some yummy treats regardless. Delicious corned beef, cabbage, corn bread and some divine Bloody Mary’s! Heyyyy! I just love the neighbors! 😉
That sure was my weekend in a nut shell…let’s see what the week brings forth!
The infamous Girl’s Night Out is something of a necessity in my life. Since, becoming a mother, life can get a bit overwhelming at times. It can stress you out, scare you, confuse you, annoy you, and create moments of immeasurable anxiousness. Sometimes, you just need a break!
Now, don’t get me wrong, I love my mama status. Even among all the chaos, the benefits far outweigh the non…but let’s be real I am only human and sometimes I need to call a time out!
One of the things I look forward to most is a night away with my girls. Whether it’s just one girlfriend or a few, getting away for a few hours to talk, have some drinks and get a break from mom duties is everything I need to stay on point!
So, here are some reasons I need my occasional night out with the girls:
Face time. Sometimes you just need to see your girls face to face without texting or phone calls. Looking people in the eye is the best way to communicate on all levels.
I can drop as many f-bombs that I fn want! Let’s face it, with motherhood comes censorship. We can’t possibly allow our children to run around being potty mouths so we watch what we say and that shit gets old. Ha! Sometimes the best term needed to express my feeling at the moment just can not be censored. But a girls night out is a perfect forum to let all that shit out! 😮
Opportunity to vent about all the things that drive us crazy about motherhood, (or relationships) in a healthy way. My girls are the best listeners and to have them to express frustrations and concerns with, is truly a lifesaver. Also, knowing I am not alone in these emotions works wonders.
Time away. Everyone needs this every so often. You need a couple of hours on a regular basis to be with people other than your kids and your spouse. This is just REAL talk! We all need a break, it keeps us sane…or at least it helps me! That’s all.
Dancing. Now, this isn’t every time but when this happens it is a blast! Sometimes, you just want to hear loud music and dance with your girls! This is the best way to let off steam in my opinion and it’s always a good time.
Coming back home, fresh minded with new perspective and ready for what’s ahead. In some cases, you may have a small hangover to nurse but all for the better because you had some time to get things off your chest, swear a little, laugh a little and have some quality time with your best girls. What more could you ask for?
As our lives become fuller with kids and family, we always have to make time for friends. Having people in our lives outside of the household keeps our hearts and our souls feeling fulfilled. Sometimes, especially with motherhood, we can have moments that can be tough. Sharing all of that with your girls helps tremendously…and all while having an amazing time!
I can’t say enough about how beautiful it was in Chicago this weekend. It was so warm I thought that we had completely skipped the winter. Previous years we would have been sitting in snow with freezing chills that slap you silly. 😮 Although, the reasoning for this weather shift is a bigger issue; at this very moment I will not complain as I was able to enjoy a beautiful weekend with the fam…outside.
It was quite the lazy weekend, one that was needed. It was all about taking advantage of the rare opportunity that we were allotted. 🙂
All this laying low has inspired me quite a bit which is great! Sometimes you just need to recharge the batteries, take in the air, relax the mind and enjoy the most basic things. 😉
Last week ended pretty crazy. There definitely wasn’t enough time in the days it seemed. So, I had to sacrifice some work time to get things done and that’s always a little hard but ya gotta do what ya gotta do, right?
Regardless of the crazy, the weekend was a good time. We had a relative visit, a birthday and lot’s of celebrating. Because I generally don’t post on weekends I figured I would start recapping them on Monday’s. Hope you all had a lovely weekend! 😉